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We got some surprising news this week. My stepdaughter’s mother is getting married. My stepdaughter, April is very excited, but I have to admit to some misgivings. I’m thrilled that her mother is so happy, as the happier she is, the less likely she is to cause trouble for us. However, April is a very beautiful 14 year-old so I’m having trouble with the idea of her living with a man her mother met on the Internet only two months ago.

I’ve done some research, but can’t find any stepfamily advice on this particular topic. The long and the short of it is there’s really nothing we can do, but I would really like some type of assurance that this guy isn’t a registered sex offender. Okay, so maybe that’s a little over the top, but I’m sure you know where I’m coming from.

I was going to try to do one of those on-line background checks just to ease my mind, but I don’t have enough information on him to do it. Short of asking for it, I don’t know of any way to get it. I’ve already pulled more information out of April than I should have.

So I guess this is one of those times I’m just going to have to turn this over to God and let him watch over her. I think this is the hardest part of being a stepparent. I love her and want to make sure she’s safe, but in situations like this, there’s nothing I can do to protect her.


Posted in Randomness on March 27th, 2007

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4 Responses to “Surprising News”

  1. Lori Says:
    March 28th, 2007 at 11:40 pm

    I think most states have sex offender registrations online. You could at least do a search on his name and see if he turns up. I think a lot have pictures too, in case he has a common name.

  2. Ivy Says:
    March 30th, 2007 at 6:36 pm

    SO WEIRD THAT YOU WROTE THIS. Our BioMom just got remarried last week. In Vegas. They had been dating 5 months. Had not lived together. We were worried, but luckily he’s a standup guy. We don’t expect it to last.

  3. Pam Says:
    April 5th, 2007 at 4:14 pm

    Actually, there is something that you can do. You can - appropriately - teach April about her body and her boundaries, and you can make sure she feels safe in your home and in talking to you and her dad about ANYTHING. You can’t keep danger away from her, but you can arm her to deal with it when it comes. That’s what parenting is about, after all.

  4. ghi select hmo Says:
    December 7th, 2008 at 7:04 am

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