Little Things
When it comes to a new step family adjusting to each other it really is the little things that show you that you really and truly are making a bit of progress. When Love and I first got married my kids, my oldest in particular, wanted not a lot to do with him. I hated it because I knew it made him feel somewhat bad and it lead to hurt feelings, him trying to avoid the kids, etc.
Well last night I realized we were making a bit of progress. After dinner he went upstairs to relax as he’d had a long day. Usually he hangs out with the kids and I until their bedroom so they noticed his absence. First my youngest asked where he was. Then when it came time to put on jammies he needed to get a shirt out of my room. I told him to go ahead, but knock first. I heard him run upstairs and knock and go into my room where he stayed for a good five minutes teasing around with Love.
Earlier in the day my oldest had drawn some pictures he was quite proud of and he asked if he could go up and show them to Love. That about shocked my socks right off and I think it had the same effect on Love as he mentioned it later after the kiddos had gone off to bed.
It is nice when things start to come together. Of course things aren’t perfect but it is wonderful when they start to look like it all might actually work out someday.
April 8th, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Aww, that’s really nice for you, especially with little one on the way