By Golly, I Think We Are Bonding
I am naturally maternal. I nuture and boss everyone’s children. I cannot help myself. So, of course, I bonded very quickly with my husband’s kids. I treat them just like I treat my own children, except that I let my husband take care of disciplining them. I’m not quite comfortable with that yet.
However, even though my kids and my husband get along really well, there hasn’t been much in the way of bonding. The kids aren’t making the first move and neither is he. Now don’t get me wrong, he really likes my kids, it’s just he is a guy and he’s spent years building up all these barriers that he needed to be alone and we are tearing those puppies down, hehe.
Last night I saw a real glimmer of what is to come and it was awesome! We rented Ratatouille . We had popped popcorn and drinks and junior mints and we all sat down to watch the movie. My husband and my kids were joking around with each other. Teasing and smiling. It was really fantastic. I know it might not sound like a major moment but it really was for me.
November 8th, 2007 at 7:14 pm
I have two older stepbrothers and an older sister - it’s took a while before we all bonded and now we’re all married with kids of our own. It’s tough being part of a blended family - you can’t pick and choose the kids just ‘coz you love their dad!
November 10th, 2007 at 7:47 pm
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