Boundaries
Wednesday, December 5th, 2007The hardest part of being a step family is figuring out what everyone’s place is. Where everyone’s boundaries are. For me it was really hard to hear someone tell me how I could be a better and more effective mother. My ex never really gave much in the way of parental support or insight but my current husband wants to be involved which is fantastic. But at first I didn’t really think so. I wanted his help, but I didn’t want his advice. If that makes any sense at all.
When he would say something about my kids acting up I’d take offense and immediately go on the defensive. I felt this over-dramatic Momma Bear thing. Must. Protect. Young. etc etc. I got my feelings bruised a lot because I couldn’t bear to hear anything but nice things about them. Even if he voiced something I was already thinking i didn’t want to hear it. But we are getting past it and life has become something much better.
Boy do I ever have issues. Seriously folks, I wish sometimes that I could just relocate my life and start all over. Since my ex hasn’t been paying his portion of child care I sent him a statement in the post. Nothing mean, just a simple statement saying what he owed and why, etc. So when I went to pick up the boys last night he informed me that he mailed my child support check, which he usually just gives to me when we trade off the kids. I’m not sure why it irritates me so much, aside from the fact that it will take longer to get to me than it already does which is total bullshit, but it really irked me. I mean really really really irritated the living snot out of me.
